2 a : having high and often capricious standards : difficult to please
3 : having complex nutritional requirements
-Merriam-Webster Online
P 167: "She had neither iron nor clothes but did not stop her fastidious lining up of pleats or pressing out of wrinkles even when she acknowledged Nel's greeting."
2. In the final section of the novel, 1965, Nel reminisces on the past and the changes she has witnessed. Bottom has gone from being an all-black, community-based town to an integrated city spanning to the valley with isolated households. She marvels at the change from beautiful black boys and lively, vivacious prostitutes to dull men and shameful, unhappy whores. She visits Circle Number 5, an old-folks home, and thinks about the differences between whites and blacks regarding family and old age. While whites put their relatives in homes with what seems like no consideration whatsoever, it takes absolute turmoil to cause a black family to let go of a loved one. Nel spent the years after Sula's death raising her children alone. She visits Eva, who is ironing invisible clothing in a mad fashion. Eva condemns Nel for the death of Chicken Little, blaming her and seeming to see no difference between Sula and Nel. Nel reflects on the child's death, remembering her cold demeanor and the tranquility she felt watching him slip into the river. Shamed, she visit the cemetary to see Sula and Sula's family's graves. As she's leaving, she runs into Shadrack, who has trouble recognizing her. Nel is hit with a sudden burst of compassion and sorrow for her lost friend and cries out in grief that it was Sula she was missing all along, not Jude. "It was a fine cry - loud and long - but it had no bottom and ithad no top, just circles and circles of sorrow."
3. Once again, we see community appear as a theme in one of our in-class novels. After Sula's death, the community of the Bottom gradually unravels. As black folks begin to mingle with white folks, gaining better paying jobs and moving closer to the valley that they have so longed to live in, they become more isolated from one another. Gone are the days of porch-sitting and gossiping, replaced with wealthier, solitude-based households. Nel's visit to Eva was both enlightening and sad. The older woman, who for so much of the novel was so powerful and emotionally strong, has slipped mentally into senility. She believes herself to be ironing with invisible tools and clothes, and she offers Nel oranges. However, she is just as alert as ever in some senses. Although she confuses Nel and Sula as one person, she knows about Chicken Little. The book never mentions Nel or Sula telling Eva, so how she knows is unclear. However, she is definitely aware of the events that took place by the river, and she confronts Nel about her part in the tragedy. This forces Nel to re-evaluate the obviously painful death, realizing for the first time that her calm serenity was not an honorable reaction, but rather a horrific one. She questions her reaction to death, feeling it to be inadequate and heartless. I really struggle with the idea of a "proper grief." What constitutes proper grieving? Who says that there is any one proper way to react to a tragedy? Factors such as shock, personality, and situation could all play a part. Maybe I'm wrong on this, but I don't think Nel was necessarily "bad" in reacting the way she did. This also raises the question of "good" vs "evil," however. While Sula reacted in the conventional way, crying hysterically and showing a lot of emotional pain at the death of the child, Nel remained calm and collected, certainly a societal anomaly. Does this mean that in this case, Sula was the "good" one? I think grey areas play a major role in this segment, and I am a firm believer in no set standards of "good" and "evil," so this really fascinated me. Who dictates what is socially acceptable? Why do we feel we can judge each other's emotions?
4. Is there a proper reaction to death? This book really made me think about that. Personally, I find expected deaths to be a lot less sad than unexpected ones. When my grandmother died, it came at a point where I was glad she could be out of her pain. I felt really bad at her funeral because I did not cry, but I couldn't see it as a sorrowful event, but rather a freeing one. Was I right to be ashamed of my reaction? Is there a proper way to grieve?
How did Eva know about Chicken Little? Is it just to be assumed that she knew all? Did Sula tell her? Did she witness it, but never say anything?
Nel realizes at the end that she missed Sula all along. Is she also mourning her lifelong pursuit of social acceptance? It's quite obvious that she lived her life according to the book, playing each role she felt society demanded of her. Was her final grief a show of her regretting this decision? Does she wish she had lived more like Sula, in a free, inhibition-based way?